【教育專欄】良知和教育（1）
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編者按：
每個人都有自己喜歡的生活方式， Diego 和 Anna很幸運，因為他們有著共同喜歡的生活方式。編者認為，這種生活方式給他們帶來的最大好處就是：“擁有整個世界”不再是一句空谈。諾大的世界就是他們的家，他們遊歷八方的經歷所產生的各種感受、世界觀、人生理念或許是顛覆性的，且極具震撼力。澳門導報希望把他們的經歷分享給廣大讀者。
原創：Diego and Anna
作者：安娜•卡倫娜 Anna Caranta
翻譯：Ayla櫻子
校對、編輯：Sicily、Diego
前言：
有許多人向我提起過如何看待教育，也有越來越多的父母在尋找一種更好的教育方式。在這個充滿競爭的社會，學校的老師們需要最好的教學成績來回應同行，父母也需要好成績來以免被老師追責，由此他們的孩子才得以繼續在學校上課，而這樣的結果導致孩子承受著學校和家裡的雙重壓力。
我這裡不再談我的個人經歷了，之前有寫過一篇相關的文章《四海為家的家庭教育：在野外生活中我們如何看待教育》，講述了我們通過在路上旅行的方式學習的經歷。
在這裡，我想試著分享一些我思考了一段時間的關於大眾的觀點，日常的觀念等等。
【教育不只是週一到週五在學校裡的日子，也是持續的各種時段】
誠然，我認為教育其實應該在我們的孩子出生之前就開始了。我這裡指的“之前”的意思是比如說我們把懷孕這件事看作是疾病的話，我們會感覺非常的苦難以及充滿恐懼。如此我們將會帶著痛苦和恐懼生出孩子，而孩子成了我們痛苦的產物。但你也可以將懷孕看作是生命的奇跡而享受其中，以極大的崇敬和愛孕育新生命，忘掉那些讓你本能作祟的潛規則。
訓練內在的母性和父性是一個需要長久學習的過程，不僅需要具備充足的愛，還要有雙方的一致性，相互尊重和誠實、正直。孩子會直接吸收和參照父母的行為方式：如對於未知的可能性和潛在的危險的處理，應對恐懼、陌生人和突發事情的反應；同理，他們也在觀察父母們如何處理壓力，彼此是如何對待和如何相愛相親的。因此在教育孩子之前，我們首先需要從自我教育開始。
如果我們跟孩子說不要喊叫，而實際我們自己沒做到；如果我們跟孩子說要學會分享，而實際我們從不分享；如果我們跟孩子說不必害怕，而實際我們卻是害怕的，那這樣的教育方式對於孩子是沒有用的。我們應在日常的行為裡更加有意識，更加深切、緊密地看待它。我們需要提醒自己孩子們會從他們眼中所見的一切吸收和學習，而不是從聽到的來學習。遲早我們都會忘掉學校要教給我們的東西，然而剩下的真正學到的是學校以外的精要。因此可以把學習當作是我們往後餘生的一種最基本的日常功課。
（未完續待）
CONSCIENCE AND EDUCATION
Original by Anna Caranta
Translated by Ayla
Edition by Sicily、Diego
People ask me a lot about education. Many parents look for the best way for their children. All that in a very competitive society, where teachers want the best results because they compete with each other. Parents also want the best results so they are not scolded by teachers and so that their children can continue their schooling and children live under a constant pressure both at home and at school.
I am not going to talk about my personal experience here. I have already done it in a previous article; there you can read my story with parenting on the trip and school on the way: 《四海為家的家庭教育：在野外生活中我們如何看待教育》
But I will try to share some general ideas, some basic concepts that I have been developing over time.
【EDUCATION IS NOT MONDAY TO FRIDAY AT SCHOOL, IS ALL THE TIME】
Yes, I think education started before our son/daughter is born. And I say “before” because we can think a pregnancy as a disease, we can live it feeling anguish, and fill ourselves with fears. We can give birth with pain and fears and the first thing our baby will live when he/she is born will be the anguish of the parents. You can also live the moment ofpregnancy as a moment of magic in life, receive the baby with respect and love, and forget about the rules to make room for your instinct. Exercising motherhood and fatherhood is a long learning which we have to do from love but also from coherence, respect, integrity. The child perceives and learns from the behavior of his parents: the way of facing to a possible danger or the unknown, how is the reaction to fears, to the stranger, to the unexpected. Also they observe how adults manage the pressure they receive, how they behave to each other, how they love each other. To educate a child, we first have to start educating ourselves. It not important that we say to the child: "do not shout" if we shout. Or "share with your friends" if we never share. "Do not beafraid" if we get scared. We have to learn to be more aware, to be more deeply, intimately satisfied with our daily behavior. We have to remember that the child learns from what he/she sees, rather than what he hears. We have to remember that we forget a lot about what we learned in school, but we have the essence of what we learned outside. And that learning is fundamental for the rest of our lives.